Normies can't live alone but they will give "advice" to lonely autists and incels like "just focus on yourself" "being on your own is better" etc.Pure cope. But how do they actually manage to be ALWAYS in a relationship. If one ends, they start another one in less than 5 months.Their marriage is sexless? Well, on the weekend they send kids to grandparents, the wife fucks her boyfriends, husband fucks his girlfriends.Then there are of course ONS week after week for some on them if they prefer that, FWBs, swinger nights and some other degen shit.This reality of theirs is like a fantasy or sci fi to me, I can't comprehend this shit at all, like how does this happen to them.It seems like they are handed everything on a platter, just for existing, everything comes so naturally to them, they don't even try.
>>31272426>they want to eliminate you from the competitionKek. I love how incels simultaneously want to believe that it's over for them and they have no hope of ever having a woman...AND that they're somehow "competition" that other men have to resort to underhanded tactics to remove from the dating pool.Weapons-grade cope folks.
>>31265943DO NOT LOSE YOUR FIRM RESOLUTION to GET A GFthe MENTAL DISCIPLINE is ENOUGHCALL THE BLUFF and ROLL WITH THE PUNCHES SIMPLE. AS.
>>31273010ITS REAL, BOY O BOY. I AM SO HAPPY PERSONALLY THAT I DID IT. I AM A GOD
>>31273012LAST WEEKEND I WENT ON MY FIRST DATE in 10 YEARS, and it even was the FIRST REAL DATE IVE EVER HADI HAVE ALREADY TAKEN IT FOR GRANTED what does that say? something like, it was so good while it was happening that i just dont fucking care
>>31270926Based.
She basically had a shitfit telling me I need to wear more light-coloured clothes and hoodies lmao. She says I dress like i'm 50 instead of 23.It is true that I dress very basic - jeans/ joggers and a t-shirts/ sweaters mostly, but her idea of dressing well is wearing some shitty flashy clothing with big logos. She complimented a t-shirt I got from a friend that was basically just a plain white tee with massive writing saying "ADIDAS" across it and said I should get more like it. She also told me to get skinnier jeans. I wear regular straight fit jeans lol.If I was to dress better (smarter, not like a fucking 16 year old in rainbow-coloured Adidas hoodies) i'd feel uncomfortable because I don't like standing out.Should I listen to what she's saying or just continue doing what i'm doing?
Look up Hank Moody. Dress cool, but casual and comfortable. And Make sure your jeans actually fit and are not baggy, dad jeans.
>>31270927>And Make sure your jeans actually fit and are not baggy, dad jeans.That's what's in now though...?
>>31258953My life has gotten better since I stopped dressing like a depressed old man. Your mother's fashion advice sounds like not much of an upgrade. I stopped wearing tee shirts entirelt and now only wear collared shirts of different kinds. I look and feel more dressed than most people. My shoe game sucks because my feet are flat.
>>31271087>I look and feel more dressed than most peopleI wouldn't really want that though. I'd feel tryhard. I don't like standing out physically.>>31271087>my feet are flat.lmao same. Are there a certain kind of shoes you have to wear? I had to get orthotics at 18 but they don't really work anymore. Basically any pair of shoes I get are fucked after 2 weeks max.
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I'm also not going to have sex.
>>31271559Why?
>>31271678How do you find prostitutes? I tried asking a subway sandwich woman if she’d have sex with me for 500$ and she hit me and told me to leave the store
>>31273678Imagine not even being able to pay $500 for sex
>>31271559Based
>>31271559I, too, just finished
A crazy homeless man can just walk up and shoot you in the head. Maybe I'm retarded but this paralyzes me to do anything with my life. How do I stop thinking my life has zero value and I'm worth nothing because I can just be killed and nobody would care?
>>31273853A meteor can fall from the sky straight into your room and kill you. A lighting can fall on your building. travel through the electrical grid, come out of the outlet closest to you and strike you.
>>31273863I think there is something deeply wrong with me because all this did was make me more afraid and manic instead of relieved that probability will account for these things never happening to me.
>>31273853Because that means your screwups don't matter either, so you might as well do whatever you want in your limited time on earth
I'm 20. I'm jealous of people who drink, smoke, and party, and when I see it in films or shows, I get envious of the characters. I was always lonely my whole life, and only now do I have an IRL girlfriend, but I never had a "school life" or was invited to parties, nor did I ever drink or smoke except for one date with a girl and never again afterward.Should I try now? How do I even try? My whole life, I've avoided all of this because I'm pretty mentally unstable on occasions, and I'm afraid of all that coming out.
>>31272220All the guys I knew who partied, drank, did drugs (not to the point of addiction) regretted it massively. If you're young focus on being fit and getting a decent career. You can always drink your 30s away
>>31272220I'm 27 and none of that meant anything to me once I left college. Spending $200 to have 3 hours of mid-grade "fun" is not something you sit around wistfully remembering.
>>31272439>alpacakek
20 years old? literally fuck off and kill yourself 15: smoked weed first time17: got big into drinking, girls, partying sex17: cocaine, mushrooms first time20: mdma first time21-26: after college. drinking every weekend. more mdma. more cocaine. lsd first time29: stopped smoking marijuana 30s: ketamine, dmti went to a party school and married a lot but i partied way harder in my 20s and 30s. and i had a kid at 26. you’re only old if you act old
I was in the exact same position as you anon. I’m 20 as well. I envied that lifestyle as well when I was in high school. All I wanted was to do drugs and party and have sex with chicks. Only recently have I realized all of that shit is fake and lifeless. Nothing really matters. Having meaningful and deep friendships and relationships with people are more important than fake or lifeless relationships with people at parties. You can still have fun without that life. I realized that spending the late night with my brother, sitting out on my porch and looking at the stars and talking about our lives is the most valuable thing ever. Parties, drugs, women etc. don’t mean much when you have actual important things you love and give meaning to.
This is a vent thread. You have a mentally ill sibling? Parent? Friend? Significant other? Got no one to talk about it with? This is your thread. It can be very stressful watching someone close to you suffer from mental illness, especially when it causes them to lash out at you. You might not want to cut off the relationship and leave them to wallow, but you're also suffering inside and feel there's no way out. Talk about here. Here are some ice breakers:>What is their relationship to you? >How does their condition affect you? >What strategies have you learned to cope?>Have you gone no contact with them?>Most importantly, how are you holding up?
>>31272907It *has* to be my fault. I got two dogshit degrees from the *same* commuter college. So not only did I waste my time getting worthless degrees, but I also didn't go out and have a college experience like I could've. I fucked up and it's entirely my fault.
>>31272907I might consider talking to a doctor. I'm deathly afraid of being 51/50d
>>31273020I highly doubt you're going to be sectioned. I've mentioned having suicidal thoughts to psychiatrists before and they don't even bat an eye. They just size up whether you're about to slide a gun in your mouth, and if the answer is no then they move on. Therapists similarly don't usually section people unless the risk is high and the suicidal person isn't cooperating with care. Your mileage may vary, but in general it's not like they're just eagerly waiting to toss people in the ward
>>31272241Mom is a neglectful covert narcissist, 6 kids with 3 different men and she wasn't prepared to raise any of them. She expects your confidence but habitually betrays it and did absolutely nothing to shelter me from the abuse my sister tormented me with throughout my youth. I understand she couldn't control my sister, but I can't forgive her for not protecting or nurturing me. Thankfully she's better for my younger siblings.Dad had BPD, textbook narcissist as well. Incredible craftsman but a junkie, he snorted drank and smoked anything he could find for 50 years until he died. Absent from my life from 4 years old to 11 and I didn't understand why I wasn't good enough to be loved anymore the entire time. I became everything he ever wanted from a son and by the time he decided he wanted to be a part of my life I wanted nothing to do with him. I lowered him to rest alongside his brothers, perfect strangers to me who needed comfort during their loss.Older sister was the perfect storm between my 2 parents; BPD, daddy issues, no guidance or affection which lead to abandonment issues, impulsivity and unchecked rage that was always directed towards her punching bag of choice, me; for my entire youth. Once I started getting bigger than her she tried turning that rage at my little sister; I wouldn't let that stand. I'm not a violent man but I had to be to keep the little one safe; it haunts me every day. I'd invoke her anger before she hurt the kid, take the hits until she wore herself out, only strike back in defense to minimize damage; try to restrain her or protect myself. Her adult life has been a hell of her own making but I draw no joy from that, she had a rough start and was never taught how to be any better than she is.I'm doing good now; 24 with a great job, wonderful fiance, incredible friends and a bright future that I fought for tooth and nail. I never wanted to be strong but I am; my heart is heavy but big, and I'm happy now with people who I love.
mental illness and being effected by it is gay
my boyfriend and i are really close. we tell eachother everything , and we spend most of our time together. 2 weeks ago he told me he would never tell me that "he's on my side" after i was telling him about how in my past (childhood) how hurt i was and how i felt no one was on my side. he wont even explain why he wont tell me that besides that it would be lying to say that. he wont even explain why he wont explain. he told me he will never explain why. why is he doing this? i dont understand. we have been dating for almost 2 years and we have always been close and loving. we have always been really open with eachother about how we feel, our thoughts. it hurts so much that he won't even explain why for such a simple thing. it feels like im being betrayed of my trust of closeness with him. it honestly scares me so much that he wont explain and said he never will. he has never done this before. i am i overreacting? why is he doing this? i dont understand. it feels like such a simple thing but i dont get it. he told me that im just hurting myself when i told him it hurt me that he wont ever explain. am i overreacting to this by being really shocked and hurt by this seemingly random behavior?
>>31273383that's not at all what i want and he knows it. he isn't being honest at all because he isn't explaining anything. i dont know what to do. he wont talk to me or explain waht he sees.
>>31273279>The most he said is that he disagrees with everything I said about feeling like there was no one on my side during childhood, and that's why he can't say it.So he disagrees with your feelings? That's not how feelings work. Best case autism, worst case he's a raging asshole who thinks he knows better than everyone else and he's deliberately upsetting you by refusing to understand your side or explain because he thinks you should be punished for being "wrong".
>>31273154That’s some autism right there.>>31273365“Not doing words” the way men usually do and actively antagonizing your gf over some bullshit are very different things. And there is no morality in this either, he’s just crazy.
>>31273833>He told me I should listen to him not wanting to explain, because he listens to me.I man he's free to not explain but if he's not going to explain I'm going to assume he has a bad reason for doing so. It sucks to throw away 2 years over something so bizarre but the way he's treating you is not normal and not okay. This isn't a situation where he has any right to feel the need to feel listened to. You told him about your childhood trauma and he essentially said "that's dumb. No I will not elaborate". Like that's not a valid boundary.
>>31273154No matter how sperg they could be they're just being unreasonable for not elaborating any
how do i strengthen my "mind's eye"? i don't have aphantasia but when i picture things it's always vague, apparently some people can picture it so precise that it's like they're seeing it?is there a way i can improve the vividity of my mental pictures? also i have the same thing for music, can i improve that playback too?
>>31273676I don't think I can because I'm a step above you
>>31273456this isn't about jerking off dude
>>31273784OP, elaborating on this matter of uses other senses than the visual:1. The things you want to visualize often have: touch, sound, smell, and your limbs have proprioception.2. In addition, each sense has gradations that you can narrate and notice, such as differing textures, shades, tints, and, in the case of music, "feeling" and emotional.Work all of that into your visualizations. Practice mindfulness of your surroundings irl and then replay it shortly after in your imagination.
>>31273792>But that doesn't make the visual part of the "visualization" stronger. That's just imagining using my other senses.It makes the visualization stronger. The mind works by hooking one thing to another, and you prevent the image of imaginary objects slipping away by connecting them with multiple modalities.
>>31273832But it doesn't work. The imaginary concept of the object stays because all my other mind senses work alright but the visual doesn't improve. I'm in my 30s I've been trying for a LONG time.
Does anybody here do DoorDash for money? Would you recommend it?
>>31269413Uber Eats
>>31269675"Uber" is such a stupid word
>>31263875Last week I had a customer that gave me a $40 fucking dollar tip on an order that took me 20 minutes to complete.That was probably the best order I've ever had on door dash.
I did it for two months most recently in between jobs (it took seriously 25 days to get into orientation on my current job). here's some tips>Use multiple apps, I used Uber and DoorDash, just pause one while doing the other>You can absolutely make $1,000+ a week but it'll burn you out >You will learn when you want to deliver, when the best time is, what the best restaurants are at what time, etc. if you pay attention>Sign up for any extra services they offer you. I made a lot of money and way better tips doing the "shop and pay" fake instacart grocery shopping Uber Eats offered me>Do not do rideshare - exactly 1 vomit will spiral your life into hell and it's more likely than you think "im not even sick bro" BLARGHPThe way I did it was I'd turn on my apps and work 7-10 doing breakfast stuff, go home for an hour, do lunch 11-3, then go home again, and if I felt it go back out 5-7 (I don't like driving in the dark, hard to see house numbers, etc.)Do not bother with the bullshit that is "acceptance rating", do not ever feel like you need to take an order or are penalized by not taking one - only pick orders that make financial sense to you as presented - depending on your area and gas prices $1/mi. is usually a decent tip.I can give more info if needed.
Ngl I wouldn't tell anyone that they can make a proper living on it, at least not where I live (very small city, kind of out in the sticks). However, it is definitely a legitimate way to make some extra money if you are strapped for cash. I used it while I was between jobs and it did really help.
I’m just here to share my life story because I’ve accumulated this and now I just want to die. I am an older brother and I have a younger brother. We have always been inseparable, especially after we lost our mother 5 years ago. Our father, struggling with his grief, drowned himself in bottles and gambling. The only thing I could do was start working at the age of 16 and start providing us with food and buying the most necessary things for home. We were left with ourselves, trying to survive this pain and cope with the new reality. I just didn’t understand how to help my father, and I felt sorry for him because he is my father, he constantly insulted us and beat us to a terrible state. Every day became harder because we knew that no one else would take care of us.Later, my brother fell ill and was diagnosed with cancer, and treatment required huge amounts of money, which we did not have. I promised myself that I would find a way to save my brother, even if it meant selling everything. I understood that only I could take care of my brother and started selling whatever I could and worked 3 jobs and I saved up around $11,000 in 1.5 years. I literally had $4,000 left for my brother to have the operation, and I could pay the rest later myself. And my father began to drink more and gamble, I began to hate him because even when my little brother needed help the most. Later I found out that this idiot lost his car and was also stuck for $9,000, he ransacked the whole house when we were not there and found where I kept the money. He spent all the money to pay off debts and continue drinking, which I saved for treatment, and this bastard didn’t even tell me about it until I found out myself. I just beat him to death for this and almost killed him, and I just cried after all this on the street and now I don’t even know how to look my brother in the face. I collected my last $200, which this asshole didn’t have time to spend, and left home. My telegram: Tsundur
>>31266096I think I might sell some of my organs, for now I’m looking for who and what I can sell
>>31268887IDK, you can just hold a sign that says "Father stole $ for brother's cancer, please help" or something and maybe people will give you money.
>>31271288Okay, I'll send here it in a couple of days
I read this same story like last week or two weeks ago. Except it didn’t have the telegram at the bottom. Fuck off.
>>31258794Depends on your country. In some cases you can enforce a guardianship over someone who has spending issues and/or substance abuse. But you’re gonna need lawyers and it might take a few months. And selling the house is usually a no-no.>>31262257I mean, losers lose. If you send money over the internet over something like this you deserve to get scammed.
Around 2014 — 2020> be me> act like an absolutely irresponsible retard> do indescribable atrocities against your own privacy online> and worst of all, use your real voice for no reasonBack to the years of 2021 and 2024> realize what you've done> somehow leave it all almost unnoticed by people> manage to clear out most of your own records of those actions> change several accounts everywhere> the current ones no longer remind you of your past> believe that everything is behind you and now you just need to not rock the boat ever againComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>31273752No idea what you're talking about. Leave the Internet, turn off your computer and get a life.
>>31273763Well, no shit. By the way, looks like i've choosen the wrong board since people down there are talking about their real problems way more than the internet ones. And now i can't delete or move the post since i cleared my browser again. Rookie mistake.
How do you recover from getting ghosted by a friend who wanted something more for years but then, for some reason, got the ick and decided the best course of action was to ghost instead of talking?I don't know what narrative that can explain it and it confuses me, destroys my confidence and gives me regrets beyond belief, what do I do? Does she know what she is doing?
>>31270132>What do I tell myself?Tell yourself you deserve better, and you will find someone more deserving of your time.>t. similar situation
>>31269891It's self selection, you'll never know why and that's ok. You don't want people in your life that don't want to be there, kick it with the people that want to spend time with you.
>>31272738What do you mean by self selection?
>>31272738But I caused it. I gave her the ick and I know exactly why and at what moment. I saw her demeanor change in real time, but at the time I thought "eh it's just a friend, but this is a weird reaction". I connected the dots afterwards and it gave me guilts beyond belief. After that, she became a ghost, and I got no chance to explain myself. Eventually, her ghosting angered me and she evidently moved on. Shit situation, shit outcome, but I haven't been able to forgive myself for ruining a friendship like that and I have no explanation aside from "you fucked up"Is she long sighted? Is she manipulative? Is she a literal whore? What kind of behavior explains this situation?I have absolutely no explanation aside from "she has self respect and you disgusted her", which only makes me want to apologizeBut I literally didn't even do anything, I just didn't know, and the more time that passes, the more she seems like she would've been my soul mate, even though for 4 years I didn't even once think of her that way and if I had tried I would've likely found multiple deal breakers anywayShe wasn't my type, but after getting guilt, I now can't stop thinking about herHelp guys?
>>31273626bump
I have developed a fetish for women with dicks. Not trans women, mind you, this is purely fantasy of natal women with penises in addition to vaginas. But now I can hardly get off to anything else. This is a dead end for anything I could do IRL.So how do I dispose of this? Will detoxing from porn achieve this? I don't know, the fantasy of having a gf with a dick seems too great to ever be matched by actual sexuality...
>>31268270Yeah I'm just saying I wouldn't consider myself bisexual though, I suppose it's a grey area
>>31265193I don't feel like I'm avoiding any problem
>>31261458Just jack off to normal hentai instead of futa and you'll be cured
>>31273271Honestly I think I've just got to quit all porn and masturbation at this point
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hi 4chan im too scared to ask any of my friends for advice but how i can develop a friendship with a girl if shes not interested in me? ive had a crush on her for months now but she could clearly care less about me. is there something im doing wrong?i really want to get to know her but i too dont have the confidence for it. how do i build confidence? serious replies only, please.
>>31273651Next time give advice buddy. It’s like that Will Smith movie where he manages to get a fat Jonah hill to bag his boss, but l only watched like 30 minutes of it in a waiting room. >>31273636Try finding that movie l was speaking of. Do what Will Smith says or just shoot your shot when she’s drunk.
>>31273667Hitch
>>31273673Thanks man. Yeah OP watch this
>>31273651something about her is so eye catching to me and i dont know what. i cant imagine thinking someone else :/
>>31273703ill maybe consider it, im looking for answers; not a movie suggestions :/
Is the incel revolution the only solution?
>>31269509>screencapping his own braindead shitty postThe audacity of not only saying the exact inverse of what is really going on here but reposting it as some sort of "gotcha".
>>31270179>every incel with an iq of atleast 80So none of you then?
>>31270560some are dumb, some are smart
>>31269509> FBI> far-leftwingpick one
>>31272888I think incels harbour the kind of spirirt communists had in the early 20th century desu
